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Tradition Tuesday & Off The Wall Wednesday: The Dreaded Garter Toss

3 Apr


Get ready, because you’re getting a double whammy today.  We missed Tradition Tuesday and thought that we would just incorporate it into Off the Wall Wednesday.  You are in for some fun.

Being a single lady myself, I absolutely LOATHE that point at the reception where they call all the single guests out for the Bouquet Toss & Garter Toss.  Creating an awkwardly sexual activity in a room filled with all those people you don’t want to know about your behind the doors life, is just wrong in my opinion.  Make sure to apologize to your Rents & G-Rents on this one.  And why, oh why, do you feel the need to call all your single friends out?  It’s even worse when you see the lone 35 year old standing out with all the single teeny boppers.  Then you always find the one or two secret crazy people who, in my experience, tend to be women.  They feel the need to actually FIGHT over the bouquet.  Ladies…NO!  THIS IS NOT OKAY! 


Brides, if you see your guests do this at your wedding, have a spray bottle of water, or whatever you fancy, on hand and treat them as if they are bad behaving puppies.  A little spritz in the face…or five…is sure to settle them down.  I have also seen grown men rolling around on the ground for the garter.  Really?  What is really the purpose of this?  It will continue to bewilder me forever and always.

The whole thing is just horrible and I generally & luckily go under the radar without even leaving the room.  I have absolutely no idea how, considering I enjoy wearing bright colors and don’t tend to blend in with the crowd.  But seriously ladies and gents, it’s the worst part of the reception and if you think back to where it originated from, you may realize it is, indeed, the most hideous ritual.


There are many traditions depending on the time and country and they vary, but also have similar meanings.  Here a few that we have heard of.

1.  The Bride is considered very lucky on her wedding day and at one point would toss her own garter onto others as a means of transferring her luck to them.  It’s basically the same idea of the Bridal Bouquet as the bouquet is a sign of happiness.  This is a decently sweet idea I guess.  That is until you have people rushing you to obtain your luck.  Ouch.  Fear not brides, provided that you throw it quick enough and far enough, you can use that event as a way to distract and make your escape.  The key is to think fast.

2.  Around the 14th century, on the night of the wedding, guests would follow the bride and groom to their room, wait until they were undressed and then steal their stockings.  After this they would play a little game called ‘Flinging the Stocking’ which sounds exactly as it should.  They would then fling the stockings at the bride and groom trying to hit them.  Whoever hit them first with the stockings would be given good luck and was thought to marry next.  Great plan everybody…let’s leave getting hitched in the hands of a game and give you some sort of pressure to find a mate.  Eek.

And drum roll….the worst-of-the-worst.  Ta-Da!

3.  In Medieval times, it was actually tradition for wedding guests to follow the bride and groom to their bed chambers to make sure the marriage was consummated.  Um yuck?  Apparently in this time the guests would tear at the brides clothes both to receive luck from pieces of garment and to make sure the deed was indeed happening.  Sounds fun right?  How would you like your friends and family to follow you into the Bridal Suite and undress you viciously and tear up your dress.  

So let’s all think out of the box here…There are definitely some new ways to celebrate this event without.  Forget the old and bring in the new.  

1.  You could replace this awful little tradition by Dedicated the Garter & Bouquet to people you love or do the Anniversary Dance and whichever couple has been married the longest gets the bouquet and garter.

3.  I am sort of loving the idea of a scavenger hunt.  It could be incredibly tricky and time consuming, but how original is that?

4.  Just skip the whole thing???  No…not felling it?

5.  Keep the bridal & bridesmaid bouquets in water until the next day and create floral arrangements that you could deliver to nursing homes or hospitals.  Brighten someone’s day.  I am sure they need it more than your vicious and overly zealous guests do.




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