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Tradition Tuesday: To Veil or Not to Veil

9 Apr


We’re seeing that more and more brides are starting to go without the veil, which we absolutely love.  I have never been a fan and can’t imagine carrying a tulle headdress all over my wedding.  I mean, what’s the point?  Most brides take it off as soon as the ceremony and pictures are finished, and that’s not a cheap accessory to wear just for a bit.  And, while brides still wear them often, we assume because they are scared to break from tradition, they don’t realize they are already so far off tradition anyway.

So here’s the scoop, that tulle monstrosity on top of your head, was actually used for a much different purpose than most realize.  In observation, it seems that most people look at is as a modest act within the church used to show humility and respect.  Which, to some extent, and especially in a religious atmosphere, is true.  However, there is also the historical idea that the bride may be vulnerable to being bewitched.  OH MY!  Ancient Romans actually veiled brides in flame colored veils to ward off those evil doers.  While we sort of love the idea of a flame colored veil or headpiece, your mothers would flip!  But who cares, right?  It’s your wedding, not theirs.  There was also the thought, in arranged marriages where the groom and bride didn’t see each other until the wedding, that they would veil the bride to hide her.  Why? You might ask.  Because, of course, they didn’t want the groom not liking what he saw and sprinting away at first glimpse of his bride walking down the aisle.  How depressing!


Do you remember Princess Diana’s veil?  While everyone was so ga-ga over it at the time, the length was a bit out of control.  And when we say ‘bit’, we mean seriously  OUT. OF. CONTROL.  Do you really want the memories of your wedding day to be only of a stiff neck?  No thank you!  These specifically over-the-top veils come from Victorian customs when the veil & train showed status depending on their weight, length, & quality.  So only the most Royal of people would have the biggest & longest veils & trains.  Hmmm…we still say no thanks.

We say go for a piece that talks about you.  How many people can really be defined by a veil?  For the vintage bride, try a pill-box hat with a birdcage veil.  We LOVE birdcages.  If you have a touch of fun in you and like to make a statement, try a fascinator.  Go Grecian Goddess with a gilded head-piece.  Or Bohemian Chic with a fresh crown of flowers adorning your pretty face.  They are so much fun!  Cut the veil, cut the train, and get funky!  Have we convinced you?


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Tradition Tuesday & Off The Wall Wednesday: The Dreaded Garter Toss

3 Apr


Get ready, because you’re getting a double whammy today.  We missed Tradition Tuesday and thought that we would just incorporate it into Off the Wall Wednesday.  You are in for some fun.

Being a single lady myself, I absolutely LOATHE that point at the reception where they call all the single guests out for the Bouquet Toss & Garter Toss.  Creating an awkwardly sexual activity in a room filled with all those people you don’t want to know about your behind the doors life, is just wrong in my opinion.  Make sure to apologize to your Rents & G-Rents on this one.  And why, oh why, do you feel the need to call all your single friends out?  It’s even worse when you see the lone 35 year old standing out with all the single teeny boppers.  Then you always find the one or two secret crazy people who, in my experience, tend to be women.  They feel the need to actually FIGHT over the bouquet.  Ladies…NO!  THIS IS NOT OKAY! 


Brides, if you see your guests do this at your wedding, have a spray bottle of water, or whatever you fancy, on hand and treat them as if they are bad behaving puppies.  A little spritz in the face…or five…is sure to settle them down.  I have also seen grown men rolling around on the ground for the garter.  Really?  What is really the purpose of this?  It will continue to bewilder me forever and always.

The whole thing is just horrible and I generally & luckily go under the radar without even leaving the room.  I have absolutely no idea how, considering I enjoy wearing bright colors and don’t tend to blend in with the crowd.  But seriously ladies and gents, it’s the worst part of the reception and if you think back to where it originated from, you may realize it is, indeed, the most hideous ritual.


There are many traditions depending on the time and country and they vary, but also have similar meanings.  Here a few that we have heard of.

1.  The Bride is considered very lucky on her wedding day and at one point would toss her own garter onto others as a means of transferring her luck to them.  It’s basically the same idea of the Bridal Bouquet as the bouquet is a sign of happiness.  This is a decently sweet idea I guess.  That is until you have people rushing you to obtain your luck.  Ouch.  Fear not brides, provided that you throw it quick enough and far enough, you can use that event as a way to distract and make your escape.  The key is to think fast.

2.  Around the 14th century, on the night of the wedding, guests would follow the bride and groom to their room, wait until they were undressed and then steal their stockings.  After this they would play a little game called ‘Flinging the Stocking’ which sounds exactly as it should.  They would then fling the stockings at the bride and groom trying to hit them.  Whoever hit them first with the stockings would be given good luck and was thought to marry next.  Great plan everybody…let’s leave getting hitched in the hands of a game and give you some sort of pressure to find a mate.  Eek.

And drum roll….the worst-of-the-worst.  Ta-Da!

3.  In Medieval times, it was actually tradition for wedding guests to follow the bride and groom to their bed chambers to make sure the marriage was consummated.  Um yuck?  Apparently in this time the guests would tear at the brides clothes both to receive luck from pieces of garment and to make sure the deed was indeed happening.  Sounds fun right?  How would you like your friends and family to follow you into the Bridal Suite and undress you viciously and tear up your dress.  

So let’s all think out of the box here…There are definitely some new ways to celebrate this event without.  Forget the old and bring in the new.  

1.  You could replace this awful little tradition by Dedicated the Garter & Bouquet to people you love or do the Anniversary Dance and whichever couple has been married the longest gets the bouquet and garter.

3.  I am sort of loving the idea of a scavenger hunt.  It could be incredibly tricky and time consuming, but how original is that?

4.  Just skip the whole thing???  No…not felling it?

5.  Keep the bridal & bridesmaid bouquets in water until the next day and create floral arrangements that you could deliver to nursing homes or hospitals.  Brighten someone’s day.  I am sure they need it more than your vicious and overly zealous guests do.




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