Photography is definitely an important aspect of your wedding day. Sometimes things can be such a blur on the day of that you can easily forget the special moments. Photography can capture exactly that. We believe that it is important to have something very natural and that shows the couples character. Here are some fantastic photographs of Brown Co. Wedding ceremonies done by Venus Leah Photography. She does a fantastic job!
While Thoughtful Thursdays’ are mainly for being thoughtful about the environment, this post is going to be both for the environment and those ladies you call your bridesmaids. Your maids are obviously in your wedding because you love them dearly, at least we hope that is the case. So you should really treat them as so. While they are there to help you, they aren’t your actual maids and servants. Take off your Bridezilla panties and act like a friend. Yes, it is your day, but who wants to be remembered as THE WORST BRIDE EVER!
One of the worst things you can do is pick your maids and decide that they need to wear a HIDEOUS dress that they can never ever ever wear again and had to pay $250 for. Not only is this rude, but it’s quite wasteful. Why not pick out dresses that they can wear again, instead of having them stuff their closets full of monstrosities to never see the light of day again? No one wants to be Katherine Heigl in ‘27 Dresses‘. Except for maybe the fact that she ends up with James Marsden’s character.
Also, please remember that not every lady is a size 2 like the models in the pages of those glossy bridal magazines. We’re not all the same shape, size or color. Yes color…some colors are just not meant to be on certain skin tones. So while, you may think “OMG! This is the best dress EVER!” and squeal with delight to that citron yellow beauty of a dress. That is not going to look good on the majority of people and it will come back to bite you in the booty when you see your wedding photographs and someone is sticking out like a sore thumb. The same goes for size and shape. You don’t want your busty BFF to be wearing a strapless dress that her girls are trying to escape from all night and having to wrangle them in, like a group of cattle, while simultaneously having boob tube. Not familiar with that term? It’s when a ladies front side literally looks like a tube of breakfast sausage that you get at the grocery. IT IS NOT BECOMING.
Also remember, if you make your single friends wear ugly dresses at your wedding, it WILL come back to haunt you! They will forever remember your awful dress and when it comes to their wedding, you may be in the same boat. Let’s break this silly cycle ladies. Have your maids get dresses that they can wear again, while looking good on them. Give your wedding some personality and have them wear different dresses in different colors that all coordinate together. Your pictures will end up looking much more natural and comfortable.
We’re seeing that more and more brides are starting to go without the veil, which we absolutely love. I have never been a fan and can’t imagine carrying a tulle headdress all over my wedding. I mean, what’s the point? Most brides take it off as soon as the ceremony and pictures are finished, and that’s not a cheap accessory to wear just for a bit. And, while brides still wear them often, we assume because they are scared to break from tradition, they don’t realize they are already so far off tradition anyway.
So here’s the scoop, that tulle monstrosity on top of your head, was actually used for a much different purpose than most realize. In observation, it seems that most people look at is as a modest act within the church used to show humility and respect. Which, to some extent, and especially in a religious atmosphere, is true. However, there is also the historical idea that the bride may be vulnerable to being bewitched. OH MY! Ancient Romans actually veiled brides in flame colored veils to ward off those evil doers. While we sort of love the idea of a flame colored veil or headpiece, your mothers would flip! But who cares, right? It’s your wedding, not theirs. There was also the thought, in arranged marriages where the groom and bride didn’t see each other until the wedding, that they would veil the bride to hide her. Why? You might ask. Because, of course, they didn’t want the groom not liking what he saw and sprinting away at first glimpse of his bride walking down the aisle. How depressing!
Do you remember Princess Diana’s veil? While everyone was so ga-ga over it at the time, the length was a bit out of control. And when we say ‘bit’, we mean seriously OUT. OF. CONTROL. Do you really want the memories of your wedding day to be only of a stiff neck? No thank you! These specifically over-the-top veils come from Victorian customs when the veil & train showed status depending on their weight, length, & quality. So only the most Royal of people would have the biggest & longest veils & trains. Hmmm…we still say no thanks.
We say go for a piece that talks about you. How many people can really be defined by a veil? For the vintage bride, try a pill-box hat with a birdcage veil. We LOVE birdcages. If you have a touch of fun in you and like to make a statement, try a fascinator. Go Grecian Goddess with a gilded head-piece. Or Bohemian Chic with a fresh crown of flowers adorning your pretty face. They are so much fun! Cut the veil, cut the train, and get funky! Have we convinced you?
Pill Box Hat: BHLDN | Fascinator: EMILLINER on Etsy Fascinator Photography: Stacy Able Photography Check out Stacy Able’s EMILLINER Photo Shoot Blog | Gold Laurel Headpiece: Pomp & Plumage | Floral Headdress: Green Wedding Shoes | Princess Diana: www.weddingideasmag.com
Get ready, because you’re getting a double whammy today. We missed Tradition Tuesday and thought that we would just incorporate it into Off the Wall Wednesday. You are in for some fun.
Being a single lady myself, I absolutely LOATHE that point at the reception where they call all the single guests out for the Bouquet Toss & Garter Toss. Creating an awkwardly sexual activity in a room filled with all those people you don’t want to know about your behind the doors life, is just wrong in my opinion. Make sure to apologize to your Rents & G-Rents on this one. And why, oh why, do you feel the need to call all your single friends out? It’s even worse when you see the lone 35 year old standing out with all the single teeny boppers. Then you always find the one or two secret crazy people who, in my experience, tend to be women. They feel the need to actually FIGHT over the bouquet. Ladies…NO! THIS IS NOT OKAY!
Brides, if you see your guests do this at your wedding, have a spray bottle of water, or whatever you fancy, on hand and treat them as if they are bad behaving puppies. A little spritz in the face…or five…is sure to settle them down. I have also seen grown men rolling around on the ground for the garter. Really? What is really the purpose of this? It will continue to bewilder me forever and always.
The whole thing is just horrible and I generally & luckily go under the radar without even leaving the room. I have absolutely no idea how, considering I enjoy wearing bright colors and don’t tend to blend in with the crowd. But seriously ladies and gents, it’s the worst part of the reception and if you think back to where it originated from, you may realize it is, indeed, the most hideous ritual.
There are many traditions depending on the time and country and they vary, but also have similar meanings. Here a few that we have heard of.
1. The Bride is considered very lucky on her wedding day and at one point would toss her own garter onto others as a means of transferring her luck to them. It’s basically the same idea of the Bridal Bouquet as the bouquet is a sign of happiness. This is a decently sweet idea I guess. That is until you have people rushing you to obtain your luck. Ouch. Fear not brides, provided that you throw it quick enough and far enough, you can use that event as a way to distract and make your escape. The key is to think fast.
2. Around the 14th century, on the night of the wedding, guests would follow the bride and groom to their room, wait until they were undressed and then steal their stockings. After this they would play a little game called ‘Flinging the Stocking’ which sounds exactly as it should. They would then fling the stockings at the bride and groom trying to hit them. Whoever hit them first with the stockings would be given good luck and was thought to marry next. Great plan everybody…let’s leave getting hitched in the hands of a game and give you some sort of pressure to find a mate. Eek.
And drum roll….the worst-of-the-worst. Ta-Da!
3. In Medieval times, it was actually tradition for wedding guests to follow the bride and groom to their bed chambers to make sure the marriage was consummated. Um yuck? Apparently in this time the guests would tear at the brides clothes both to receive luck from pieces of garment and to make sure the deed was indeed happening. Sounds fun right? How would you like your friends and family to follow you into the Bridal Suite and undress you viciously and tear up your dress.
So let’s all think out of the box here…There are definitely some new ways to celebrate this event without. Forget the old and bring in the new.
1. You could replace this awful little tradition by Dedicated the Garter & Bouquet to people you love or do the Anniversary Dance and whichever couple has been married the longest gets the bouquet and garter.
3. I am sort of loving the idea of a scavenger hunt. It could be incredibly tricky and time consuming, but how original is that?
4. Just skip the whole thing??? No…not felling it?
5. Keep the bridal & bridesmaid bouquets in water until the next day and create floral arrangements that you could deliver to nursing homes or hospitals. Brighten someone’s day. I am sure they need it more than your vicious and overly zealous guests do.
Bridal Wars Photo | Google
Flapper & Garter Photo | Bobbins & Bombshells
Do you ever attend a wedding and think ‘Seen this before.’? ‘Wasn’t the last wedding I went to exactly like this?’ ‘When will people step up their game and do something interesting?’ I am pretty sure that everyone and their brother has been there and, well, IT’S BORING! A wedding or commitment ceremony should express the couple and their personal story, not the 20 other drab couples that you know. STOP BEING DULL! Obviously…everyone is going to copy something. You have to get your inspiration somewhere. All we are saying here at Brown County Weddings is to try and think outside the box a little. It could be extreme, which, let’s be honest, someday you’re going to look back at that and think ‘What the Hell was I thinking?’, but at least it’s a good and interesting memory. A story to tell. Or it could be something a bit more subtle and very you…something that you can look back on and think ‘It felt so good to be us and original.’ I know, I know. For some reason it is so hard to be different, original, experimental, but we here at Brown County Weddings think you can do it!
So….From here on out, Wednesdays will be for wedding ideas that make you think outside the box, and for showcasing some crazy wedding ideas.
This week, I would like to start with those little monsters we love to call flower girls and ring bearers. I am just kidding about the ‘little monsters’ part. Sort of. ;). What little kid wants to get all dressed up in a stuffy little outfit and stand awkwardly at the front of all the guests with all the attention on them. Trust us, none. We have witnessed these little bundles of joy kicking, screaming and undressing themselves in front of everyone just to escape. Furthermore…those outfits will never be used again.
At Brown County Weddings we suggest doing something fun and exciting. Plus these little pieces could be used for Halloween costumes later or, even for dress up play around the house.
Make these wee ones feel special and give them a cooler job than holding a ring pillow or throwing flowers. While some things, such as the wee ones walking down the aisle with a banner saying ‘here comes the bride’, are cute and we definitely suggest using them in some way or other. What about doing something with a little ‘POW’! A talented Bloomington, Indiana local, owenr at Pip & Bean is making these A-MAZING Superhero capes.
Superhero Capes | Pip & Bean Etsy Shop
Photography | Venus Leah Photography
How freaking cute are these. We even love the idea of doing a little superhero theme for the entire wedding. Nothing cheesy of course….just little snippets of superhero-dom throughout the wedding in a tasteful manner. Not only are these adorable, but also a fun and creative way to put some pizazz into your wedding. I mean how often do you see this? And, while Pip & Bean has specific ring bearer & flower girl capes, they also makes custom capes and there are multiple other looks, which means you can customize the little wonders to your liking. Make them characters. Maybe even get capes for the couple or the wedding party to have in pictures. Groomsmen with superhero boutonnieres. Bridesmaids with superhero insignia in their bouquets. You could make a whole affair out of it and it’s perfect for all those comic book junkies.
We love this wedding off of Green Wedding Shoes. Vintage inspired with just a touch of comic book love.
Superhero Wedding Reception | Green Wedding Shoes
So dare to be creative and off the wall in your wedding. Find something original to you and have fun with it.